Love for that which he/she worships is the determining force behind the worshiper. The worshiped is usually a God, Saint, or an idol, which is a representation of God or Saint. Since envisioning God is problematic and limiting, an idol is used as a neutral figure with no personal ideology or human traits, which is a good representation of the unknown. To love and to be loved is very strong in the worshiper, and the only thing that could rise above that, is their love for a Saint or God. The worshiper loves too much in their life, and finds an easy outlet for that love by worshiping another (any other). He looses his identity easily in life to the one he is in love with, but every time he finds it unfulfilling and hurtful. So many problems and hateful people in the world he is disenchanted by what he sees. Looking for an outlet that doesn’t backfire all the time, he sets his high energy love towards a religious (spiritual) figure that won‘t disappoint, because it is God. The new freedom to love as much as he wants, he is smitten and very emotional, wanting more of that and less of this, he dives into his new love head first with a passion. Eventually, after some time the emotions subside down to an intense longing that consumes him all the time. Not looking back or caring what others think of him, he gives it his all, and in doing so, he unconsciously creates a new feeble identity that is solely based on his lover. His external worshiping takes him further away from his life of problems, and away from his personal identity, he is giving up everything for the cause. Like a teenager in his first love he can’t think about anything else but that, the outside world is unnoticeable, he is blinded by love. He may see his saint where ever he goes and relishes in the idea of being one with it. He returns day after day to his temple of worship to meditate and pray for release, but day after day nothing happens. He knows he can’t go back to the world, and out of frustration he surrenders his last bit of ego and worldly attachments. He excepts death as a friend, and he sees it as his only release left, and he invites it in, because it dosn't cross his mind to do it himself. Take my life please, I'll give up anything so I can be one with you, I have nothing left to give. He then becomes ripe for the picking, by giving up everything there is nothing left to hold on to, he falls from the tree of life. He becomes That, which he worships, totally enmeshed in that divinity, he is one with it. Uniting with it, he sees the Divine Reality that awaits him.

I myself, found it hard to love another more than myself, so I took the way of the Soul Searcher. I knew I could learn how to apply myself to the path and make it a routine, when it became a way of life, I fell in love with it. Meditating on myself (soul), and contemplating on one topic over and over actually made thoughtless existence and meditating easier.